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In memory of Ephraim Schultz

Created by Family Of Ephraim Schultz

Ephraim Schultz

My Son Ephraim David Schultz was born July 19, 1983 and died May 12, 2005, from a massive overdose of opiates, methadone and other substances. He was 21 yrs old. Before I became pregnant with him, believe it or not I had a dream and in that dream I was told I would have a son and should name him Ephraim. In hebrew that means, "God has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction." Ephraim was a kind, sensitive and loving young boy and grew into a young man with alot of promise at his fingertips. He was a young chess champion,as well as junior national honor roll. His brother and him went to private Christian schools, then Buffalo public schools and then a Catholic parachoial school in 8th grade. There as well as in the suburbs of Buffalo he was introduced to marijuana. From marijuana he quickly was introduced to harder drugs in the prestigious suburb of Buffalo called Clarence, NY where kids have enough money to buy the drugs they want. Thus began the struggle of this kindhearted, promising young man who was and is my son. He spent his days and weekends at Antique World in Clarence, NY where he loved the Pumpkin Festival and the weekend flea market. Although quiet and polite he soon was well known throughout the market area as always being helpful with a quick smile and hello to everyone. He loved gardening and landscaping and worked for some of the companies in the Clarencearea. However he struggled with depression, wanting to fit in and be accepted by his peers and all the other issues that go along with being sensitive. On the evening of his death he left work (he had not been feeling well that week). He apparently went to a party in Clarence where he was sold opiates given to a mother by a local doctor. Actually -- two local doctors. She had no need for these medications and hence had been giving them to her son to sell to the kids in Clarence. A year before when he was arrested for the same thing, a local Judge dismissed him. My son took these drugs given to him and went to his cousin's home, that he was watching while his cousin was out of town. His cousin's roomates' girlfriend was there and he went to lay in his cousin, Benjamin's bed. There 16 hrs later he was pronounced dead. People knew something was wrong but they didnt want to call the police because there were pot plants in the basement. My son could have been saved but he was not because the girl with him was afraid to get help, he lay in his cousins bed dying and alone. Methadone, opiates, marijuana, alcohol caused his heart to explode and he died. A young man with hope, promise and a future died because as a nation we teach our children indirectly that there is an answer in a pill, because of the indiscriminate writing of pain medications, because of the lax laws and judges who release the drug dealers back into society and because of Police who do not do their job. Ephraim's death could have been prevented multiple times, but the system failed this young man and so many more young women and men have died prematurily because of a system that does not work. There is much I have left out. The car accident in which a doctor pushed opiates on my son. The Doctors writing scripts for a woman who didnt need pain medications. The judge who let the drug dealer off. The school system for not intervening. The rehab who fired him because he was positive for marijuana and needed help desperately. The parents who didnt know what to do because when they reached out to a failing system they received no help. The Pastors in the area who knew of Ephraim and did not extend their hand to him. We have a war here in our land. It is a war on drugs. It is taking more young lives than we have seen. Yet we close our eyes and ears to it. And allow drugs to enter our country and allow doctors to push these opiates and Nurses like myself dispense them. We are told we are not good nurses if we allow our patients to be in pain. When will this stop? How many more will die? How many more young lives snuffed out? I died when my son died. The ripples of pain and grief his death created has been numerous. Visions of him growing up cloud my mind and all I see is his face. The face of an angel that I called my son.


This Memorial was created to commemorate a loved one's life and to let other families know they can turn to the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids for help when struggling with their son or daughter's substance use. Please consider sharing this page to increase awareness of substance use disorders and to provide hope and healing for others.

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1. Julie
I'm so sorry for your loss.
2. Debbie Cullen
Mary Jo, I believe you and I were brought together for a reason. I met you at JUH and you touched me with your story of your son. We talked about your son, and my sister, and how terrible the loss of their lives has been. Please know I think of you often and hope you're finding some kind of comfort. Because of your encouragement I plan to create a memorial to my sister. Please know my prayers are with you always. Debbie
3. Nikki Pearson
Your son was a beautiful baby, he looks just like my son Gavin. I am sorry about your loss and my heart goes out to you. Reading this makes me want to stay more on top of my kids as they get older.
4. Mom Alessio
Please go to these web sites to: http://www.vigilforlostpromise.com/ myspace.com/ephraimdavid I have created a myspace site in tribute to ephraims life in the hopes that it may help one person rise above the grip of addiction and a life of futility and pain. Ephraims Mom
5. Jennifer Alessio
Ephraim, The nephew with the big heart and the big smile. But no one really understood that behind the smile, there was a hurt soul, longing to fit in with his peers around him. This hurt drives young people with little coping mechanisms to drugs, to fit in and kill the pain. We need to teach people at a young age healthy coping mechanisms to ward off the peer pressure that is out there and to fit in. Kids need friends. They need to find their own skill and talent and excell at it.
6. Nalin Dharshana
I knew you through the words spoken by your mom. You leaving her suddenly has not made her life easy, but I am sure those of us who are left here will love her and will look after her. But, I am sure you are looking after her from far above and I know she knows this deep down.
7. B. Bohanon
May the pain you have known give you the strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism. May you always know that there are those whose love and understanding will always be there,even when you feel most alone. May a kind word,a reassuring touch, and a warm smile be yours every day of your life, and may you give these gifts as well as receive them. Peace be with you my friend.
8. Mom Alessio
We need more than that. We need people willing to play basketball, go fishing, teach quilting, go to a movie. To encourage, support, provide leadership and role modeling. To develop a strong barrier so kids and people do not have an interest or desire to escape in a temporary feel good world. As medical professionals we need to teach natural pain control measures and encourage people towards that. There is so much more to say... Please support this research. Thank you and God Bless!
9. Charles Uzzell
Dear One! This is a beautiful tribute page. The story can help to save others, which perhaps is a small consolation somehow. I go back and forth on this issue. Arch-conservative William F. Buckley Jr thinks we should legalize drugs and spend the money on rehab centers and prevention, that we have lost the "war on drugs." That our cops are corrupted by the huge amounts of money involved with the drug trade. That most drugs have a value of 10 cents but sell for thousands.
10. Rob Burns
I am very sorry for your loss. I have never heard of such a thing happening like that. I know that God is looking over you and is always answering your prayers.
11. Jeannie H
Mary Jo, Peace be with you *namaste* jeannie
12. Lisa Berry
(continued) a situation that can happen to any loving parent as we cannot be there to protect and guide our children at all times from danger. Your strength and courage each day I find incredible and also the fact that you are helping and fighting to prevent this happening to another. I am proud of you dear friend and support you fully. Lisa Berry England UK
13. Lisa Berry
A Tribute for Ephraim and his mother Mary Jo. In thought and remembrance of Ephraim D Schultz No words of comfort can make up for or describe the pain, heartbreak and huge void created in your life the day your beloved son was taken so tragically from you. To care about you both and what has happened, and also to remember Ephraim in name and heart, and keep his memory alive maybe can make some slight difference. Ephraim's circumstance and story is a situation that can happen to any loving
14. Maureen Hall
I am so sorry for what you and your family are going through. The ripple effect of a loss such as this is exraordinary. I am in agreement with how the system let Ephraim down. Please stand up and tell your story to whoever will listen. If you help save one mother's child then you will have made a difference. May you find comfort in the everyday things that remind you of your precious son. Maureen Hall
15. Kelly Busa
Words cannot express how deeply saddened I am for your loss. May your memories of your son comfort you and may you someday find peace. One can only hope that these stories will impact the right people and that the war on drugs in our country will one day be won. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
16. Nicole Marks
I am so sorry for your loss.
17. Mom Alessio
I truly believe in what Hillary Clinton stated "It takes a village to raise a child". Life has become very complicated and the influence and love of two parents no longer suffices. We need the love and support of the churches, local pastors, extended family members, big brothers and big sisters, all facets of the community to make a difference in one childs life. Both my sons were part of the "Say No to Drugs Campaign". They told me that the kids would laugh at this.
18. Jennifer Woods
My prayers are with you and your family. It is a terrible thing to lose anyone because of drugs, and hopefully your son's story may help someone else.
19. Jasmine How
I feel so bad and this made me see what this stuff can do to you! I am so sorry for your loss and I am praying for your family!