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In memory of Kyle Boudinot

Created by Family Of Kyle Boudinot

Kyle Boudinot

I knew Kyle as a good hearted kid who was doing the best he could. I met him when he was about 10 years old. I was assigned as his tutor to help him with schoolwork and was in his life for about 7 years. I became aware that Kyle's issues, like most kids, had their roots in some family issues. His Mom was in recovery and his Dad, who also had alcohol problems, was doing his best. Without community help, this family couldn't make it and Kyle didn't. In the early morning hours of May 29th, he slammed into one of the big old oak trees, just miles from his home. Kyle had himself become an alcohol abuser, drinking himself to blackouts. As Kyle was growing up in a very small town, dad committed some economic crimes to give his kids what he thought they needed. What they really needed was him clean, sober and mentally healthy. But he didn't have the resources to get the long term counseling he needed, neither did Mom, or Kyle's sister or Kyle. Kyle's dad went to jail, it was on the front page of the small town paper, and Kyle saw another reason for shame and rage, and the counseling resources weren't there. That was the real crime. Our healthcare system, our communities are judgment and punishment based, rather than extending a compassionate hand to those who have stumbled. Kyle loved drama and poetry, but talked about going into the Army when he got out of school. What other choices could he see? There were no resources for trade school or college. He really wanted to be an inventor and would have been a great engineer of some kind. But, the resources just weren't accessible to him and he didn't have the support to develop a positive self image. I had hoped that I could have provided that support, but it wasn't enough. In Kyle's memory, I'm going to set up a memorial fund and at least provide minimal scholarships at his high school for alcohol affected kids. My broader goal is to raise enough money so that under and uninsured families in that area can access long term counseling and treatment. He was such a good kid with a good heart and he deserved to understand, cherish and live-out his life purpose. Instead, unresolved rage and shame drove him senselessly into a strong old oak.


This Memorial was created to commemorate a loved one's life and to let other families know they can turn to the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids for help when struggling with their son or daughter's substance use. Please consider sharing this page to increase awareness of substance use disorders and to provide hope and healing for others.

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1. Elaine Davidsmama
Nancy, how true are your statements, but they could've been written about most communities. No counseling, no treatment & attitudes that reflect judgement rather than courageous compassion. Thank you for speaking up for this young man & in doing so you have spoken up for many, many others. I offer my sympathies & prayerful support. Thank you also for seeing the real person & not the sum of their mistakes or parents mistakes. You've made us feel better by our knowing you're makin
2. Angela Gwynn Mother Of Dallas Nguyen
Nancy, thank you for sharing Kyle's story with us here. I hope you never stop telling it. You were a good friend to him, you share him with us now. It is so very hard to struggle upwards out of the pain, some kids don't make it to the top and over the peak. I am so very sorry Kyle was one of those who didn't make it. Spread the message of hope Nancy, in Kyle's name. Peace and Love to you...